One of the highest viewed posts on this site is “Burning Man Sucks, Don’t Go.” It is quite the post to say the least, it is a direct reflection of my ’08 Burn time. It could even be considered to be a koan.
Is the “shit” that is happening a product of the writer — in essence is the writer the one projecting the shit or is it really true that some people are so stuck in their conditioning that they can’t see when their conditioning is making them a little crazy, psycho, selfish, and completely out of their fcking mind? Could it be both?
Sometimes there is no real/fixed answer to a koan. Sometimes the reason to ask this question is for the purpose of getting that person think about all the many ways that someone could arrive at their conclusion. Who’s truth/What truth, is being expressed now? It could be the truth of all involved. And on the other hand who’s conditioning, what conditioning is being expressed now? Is there one right conditioning?
Something that has soothed me recently is this entry I randomly found on the Internets, it goes:
Often times, in life we are all contesting against ourselves – when we make choices and when choices break or make us. At such difficult times, there is nothing else that can ever make a person feel better within, than an honest-to-God sense of realization that ‘I did make a mistake’. And that ‘ I need to correct it now’.
Sometimes, mistakes cannot be corrected, yet still their impact can be acknowledged by the person who made the mistake/s and caused harm and hurt to another person.
Religion also encourages the ability to express sorry with an understanding that the wrong doing is realized as a wrong doing and the wrong doer is embarrassed for having done that.
Without philosophizing for the only-practical-minds, it still holds that the power of realization is healthy and beneficial, because its intent is to provide comfort to a disturbed mind; be it that of the one who is hurt due to a mistake of someone or of the one who caused the mistake. A greater gain is obtained when bad intentions are also acknowledged. Not everyone can live up to this ideal.
Only those people know its value, who mean to correct their flaws and are not terribly caught in their egos. There is a time limit for that realization to have its positive impact.
On earth, taking the ownership of one’s own mistakes and diligently making the effort to correct them with a clear heart and mind, is the best way one can gather the evidence to bring forth to Almighty, when the ultimate accountability will be carried out.
Now, I’m not about the Almighty (nor am I against it) but a couple of things ring true for me about this.
- Mistakes are unavoidable and when you make one, sometimes the best thing to be done is to realize that “a wrong doing is a wrong doing.” (No circumstances allowed.)
- Realizing and admitting to your mistake is beneficial for you and the person who was hurt by the mistake.
- The amount of time in acknowledging the wrong doing/mistake counts.
- Apologizing is not about superiority or inferiority, it is about making things right. It’s about being better for yourself; it’s about caring that your behavior has caused someone great pain and taking a step to correct that. It’s an effort that doesn’t require ego.
And this is just one side of the story. I’ll write about another side of the story another time. Till then, enjoy life and do your best.
— xoxo, Eds
Update: The other side of the story