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		<title>What&#8217;s the Big Deal About Gossip?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Eh. Gossip is *such* a double-edged sword. When it comes to gossip you usually have two camps. The first being &#8220;gossip is horrible and never to be done.&#8221; The second being &#8220;ooooo guuurl tell me what sh*t happened last night.&#8221; And then there are those of the second group who love to re-distribute their recently [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3719&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>5 Tips On Buddha&#8217;s Way of Forgiveness and Reconciliation</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Jan 2012 07:18:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s so great to know that this website can help some people, whether it be helping someone discover Buddhism or helping someone with anger or even helping someone feel emotionally validated. One of the most popular posts on this website is &#8220;Buddha on Forgiveness, Reconciliation, and Right &#38; Wrong.&#8221; When I wrote this posts, I [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3700&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Autism and Buddhism (It&#8217;s Not What You Think)</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jan 2012 08:44:10 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[There is a form of concern for self which is compatible with and even essential to altruism. The care for oneself which enables one to feel empathy with others can be termed &#8220;autism.&#8221; Autism is necessary for altruism, since it is necessary to be able to accept and even love oneself before one can show [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3697&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Music Monday: California Dreamin&#8217;</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Nov 2011 23:13:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The California weather makes me think of this Californian song. Jose Feliciano does a great cover.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3680&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>OWS: It&#8217;s Really Not Their Fault</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 12 Nov 2011 03:10:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Read more on Cracked.com&#8217;s feature article, &#8220;5 Ways We Ruined the Occupy Wall Street Generation&#8221;<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3667&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>KQED&#8217;s Forum Talks With Sex At Dawn Author</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Nov 2011 21:43:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In societies where women are not shamed about sex, they have just as many lovers as men and fight over their rights just as vehemently as men. This is what I heard on the radio as I pulled into the parking lot at work.  At that moment, I felt completely validated, gobsmacked and elated. I [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3652&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>How Love And Intimacy Can Work</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Nov 2011 02:12:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Where do you stand at with your relationships? Can you initiate a sexual relationship only when there is passion and intimacy? Or can you initiate a sexual relationship where there is intimacy and commitment but no passion?  I guess that&#8217;s where the mystery lies with this Triangular Theory of Love, it talks about feelings but says nothing about sex. Read more [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3640&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>It&#8217;s Not You, It&#8217;s Him: Men Who Gaslight</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Nov 2011 08:55:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Yashar Ali  may be either a brilliant diabolical writer who wants to get laid or just an insightful guy who likes to be helpful. Ali&#8217;s article &#8220;A Message to Women From a Man: You Are Not &#8216;Crazy&#8217;&#8221; is one of those rare articles that gets it right and brings to light a topic that many [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3627&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Sapiosexual Is a Word? And Other Stories</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Oct 2011 00:15:10 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[So a curious word was in my Facebook feed today. The word was sapiosexual. &#8220;What&#8217;s this?&#8221; you ask. I&#8217;ll tell you. Sapiosexual is &#8220;a behavior of becoming attracted to or aroused by intelligence and its use.&#8221; OMG right? Basically it goes like this: Me? I don&#8217;t care too much about the looks. I want an [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3618&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Take Some Time for Self Compassion Tuesday</title>
		<link>http://califia.wordpress.com/2011/08/30/take-some-time-for-self-compassion-tuesday/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 30 Aug 2011 12:32:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Earlier this year, Dr. Kristin Neff was featured in a New York Times article about self-compassion. If you&#8217;ve read my series, Dealing With Anger Mindfully &#8212; 6 Steps, you will be familiar with Neff and her work since it is featured in step 3 of the series, Do Self Compassion. The NYT article illustrates the [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=califia.wordpress.com&amp;blog=5744627&amp;post=3557&amp;subd=califia&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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